The Relationship Boat

Another “life-boat” I want to work on is my relationships. My friendships, partnerships, romantic relationships, and just the general interactions I have with strangers are all things I want it improve and become better at.

This is a broad topic for sure, but the linchpin to this whole area of life is the understanding that any relationship one has is a reflection of what one is. If I am dissatisfied with any of the relationships in my life it is because I have a poor attitude towards either the people involved or the whole area of life as it is. Therefore the best thing to do. The best place to focus in order to get a change is on my own internal way of relating to the people and situations around me. All attitudes that are inherently destructive must be surrendered and replaced by constructive ones. In this way it will be easier to recognize truly destructive people or habits so they can be removed.

It is very important to understand that I am the thermostat not the thermometer. I don’t read the temperature of the room. I set it. I decide whether or not the exchanges I have on a daily basis will be positive and constructive or negative and destructive and if nothing else I always have the ability to walk away from the situation. I always always have the ability to accept responsibility for my actions or current understanding and make a change.

These are things I know though, I need to learn how to relate better to people and how to talk to them. I could also be more attentive and learn how to be more interested in what other people are interested in.