Stop Resisting the Positive
Disappointments, struggles, and tragedies are all a part of life on this planet. We all have things that we don’t want to have happen, happen to us and negative feelings are a perfectly understandable response to such events; however, wallowing in these negative feelings is not heathy nor productive and sooner or later they have to be surrendered in order for us to heal and this truly is our decision.
Inner joy and the solution to whatever problem or circumstance we are facing always exists on the other side of our negative feelings and yet, despite this simple and very freeing truth, so many people choose to hold onto their negative feelings rather than let them go and while this is due to a number of reasons, the hardest one to accept is because these negative feelings are desired. They are there because we want them there.
The truth is that we like negativity. We may consciously know it’s bad for us and we may lie to ourselves and say we want to let it go, but the truth is that is we actually wanted to let it go then it wouldn’t be there. Deep down we like to hold onto fear, anger, pride, shame, lust, and guilt, because we are getting something out of it. Some kind of sadistic pay off is there and we can tell this is true, because we are resisting whatever the positive alternative to the negativity we are feeling is. Think of the last time you were angry with someone for example. The opposite of anger and resentment is forgiveness. Would you have been willing to forgive the person in your example and allow the anger and resentment to leave you? If that vitriol and spite would completely vanish in an instant, would you be okay with that? Would you want to be free of it?
Negativity is part of the human condition. It’s okay to have negative feelings and emotions. Let them be there. Don’t attempt to resist or lie about then, because that only increases their power over you. If you want to heal then pray for the Grace to heal, but know that you also must be willing to heal. Be open to seeing what the positive alternative to whatever you are feeling is and be willing to respond with that rather than with the negativity. Life becomes far more peaceful the moment you are willing to accept the source of positivity is within you and allow it to take the place of it’s negative counter part.